You know the dilemma: Our job would be ok but one or more colleagues are not – and our disputes have gone so far that we cannot ignore them any more. What could we do to mitigate the situation?

A proven process follows these steps:

  1. Take a helicopter perspective:
    If conflicts escalate then we must switch to a neutral ‘emergency communication‘ such as ‘Let’s stop here!’
  2. Regulate your emotions:
    Take a deep breath, go out for 5 min walk or think of something nice!
  3. Constructive conflict talks:
    (i) Objectively describe the situation, (ii) express your feelings and (iii) formulate your wish!
  4. Do not bother about quirks of others:
    Just accept them if they do not affect your performance – it’s just a colleague, you are not married!
  5. Focus on your own concerns:
    Do not embark on daily office soap operas but focus on your strengths, goals and competencies!
  6. Influence team climate:
    Stay objective, calm and humorous – or bring along some unexpected cookies …

… and last but not least: stay healthy and confident … 🙂